tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post4973453895846506496..comments2023-05-15T09:51:54.441-04:00Comments on Victorya Chase Goes To Therapy: Stories of FriendshipUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post-32649591997706870822007-07-17T15:51:00.000-04:002007-07-17T15:51:00.000-04:00Fish - I did a day by day mode of thinking for a w...Fish - I did a day by day mode of thinking for a while, but at times I got bogged down because I couldn't see a future. When bad stuff happens, I do still realize it isn't forever, but do look to a future w/out the pain I'm in. It's hope, it's out there for me. Thanks for stopping by!<BR/><BR/>Helena - it does become so comfortable, so very inviting, like the chair that knows all your grooves. *sigh* and now she says she's busy until august so I can't talk to her for a while.<BR/><BR/>Rose - (hugs) man, as the commercial says, depression hurts. It hurts the person who has it, the person fighting it, and everyone surrounding the situation. I hope she comes around and I have the strength to keep up the good fight.Victoryahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18256314171695734487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post-75222377174047123132007-07-17T15:38:00.000-04:002007-07-17T15:38:00.000-04:00Thank you for sharing this story with us. I too su...Thank you for sharing this story with us. I too suffer from depression and have a close friend who does too. I sometimes find it easier talking to her because she can relate to living with depression. Just being there for your friend will help her learn she is not alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post-6650980287575736242007-07-17T15:33:00.000-04:002007-07-17T15:33:00.000-04:00Yeah, depression itself becomes what you know, and...Yeah, depression itself becomes what you know, and what you know, no matter how bad, becomes the "normal", hence the "secure", hence you can veer back to it. It's like having your centre of gravity slightly offset.<BR/><BR/>It's like when you go on holiday. It's nice, but when you come home there's that "nothing like being back in your own bed" feeling.<BR/><BR/>Over and over we're told to fight it, but that takes mental energy, which depression saps... it's a cycle people that haven't been there can have a hard time to understand.<BR/><BR/>Hang on in there!<BR/><BR/>HUgs.Mrs Machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14972137710178467475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post-38358362856323444022007-07-17T14:16:00.000-04:002007-07-17T14:16:00.000-04:00Victorya - I visited your blog today after you pos...Victorya - I visited your blog today after you posted a comment on mine and I am really touched by your writing.<BR/><BR/>I hope your friend will find a way to deal with her feelings of helplessness, but I agree that she's the only person that can do it and all you can do is be there for her.<BR/><BR/>Something that helps me to keep a positive attitude is to take things day by day and to do my best for that day only, once I've done that, I tackle tomorrow.<BR/><BR/>All the best to you and your friend,<BR/>Ffishwithoutbicyclehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12071691302805126529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post-82104692221457178722007-07-17T13:42:00.000-04:002007-07-17T13:42:00.000-04:00Yeah, it's a tough dilemma indeed. I know it'd mak...Yeah, it's a tough dilemma indeed. I know it'd make you feel better once she seeks help. It'd be nicer when she can also start the healing process so you two can go back to where you once were without "pulling each other down", right? <BR/><BR/>Sending prayers so that she will seek and find the help she desperately need in time...Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post-74154048807554838402007-07-17T08:45:00.000-04:002007-07-17T08:45:00.000-04:00Amel - yeah, this is the one. It's tough because ...Amel - yeah, this is the one. It's tough because I feel myself backslide around her, but want to help her at the same time.Victoryahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18256314171695734487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4770354865100906374.post-73280437688213877912007-07-17T08:25:00.000-04:002007-07-17T08:25:00.000-04:00Ahhh...friendship is tough. So this is the story y...Ahhh...friendship is tough. So this is the story you wanted to share, that she has to save herself. And yes, misunderstanding like the birthday email has happened to me a few times with my close friends. I confronted some of them and got unexpected replies. <BR/><BR/>I understand that it's hard for you to be with your friend, but in the same time you WANT to be there for her. I hope she'll be able to want to save herself soon so that she won't be stuck in a rut too long. <BR/><BR/>Even though you've probably known this, I think you've been doing the right thing, Vic. And yes, everybody HAS the right to feel the way they do...just as long as they don't drown in the swamp of bad feelings too long (hopefully).Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.com