Friday, July 6, 2007

Identity Take II


Rose and I were sitting atop the broken down shed that served as our secret hideout. Before us were the spoils of a week spent searching for treasures– a slightly stained white sheet, some Crayola crayons, and the blossoms of Oleander. “We can decorate out new fort!” she proclaimed.

We each picked up the Crayolas, mere nubs, and fingered their waxy smoothness. These were taken from the school bins- they had to be. Neither of our families could afford real Crayolas, using the cheap ones instead, bought for half the price at the thrift store. We pulled them across the linen; our tongues slightly out in concentration. It is not easy to color on thin sheets with crayons.

“What is your real name?” I asked, covering my attempt at drawing a rose with the Oleander. Those blossoms grew more and more beautiful each time we were warned of their poison. Beauty, true beauty, is often fatal.

“It’s Rose,” she said, confused.

“No, what is the name from your parents.” I asked.

“But that’s not my real name. That’s not who I am” she replied. “Maybe I need to ask you what your real name is.”

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Victorya Chase. I have no idea how old I was when I created her as the me I wanted to be. In my dissociative fantasies there I was. Nine-years-old for eternity, but a wise nine. Victorya was strong and brave. She faced life alone but had hope that love existed. Victorya never cried and everyone said she was so beautiful. She had long silky blonde hair, not the mousey brown hair my mother would always cry was too dull and scraggly to grow long.

Victorya Chase, Chasing Victory. The name seems cliché now at times, even if that is what I’m doing. Chasing victory over my past, over my family. But maybe I’m just reading into it. Maybe my young self just thought it sounded really cool, like a super hero, like ‘Clark Kent’. Victorya helped people when she could, but mainly she cared for all animals. Her unique gift was that she could talk to them. They would see her and know they were safe. Bears and wolves would bring their new cubs of spring for her blessing.

The first girl my brother loved was named Victoria. I wonder sometimes if I chose the name because I wanted him to be able to love me again, the way he used to when he was the brave knight and I the princess. Not that I ever let anyone know my secret name. Then it would lose all its power. When we were young, he’d make a moat out of old clothes and heroically carry me across. I’d giggle and giggle and thank him, offering as reward half of my kingdom. He’d settle for a piece of candy and we’d sit on the floor amidst the old laundry chewing on our sweet treat and just enjoying that we had each other. For that brief period of time, when there was no one else, we did have each other and it was enough.

Victorya’s brother was the west wind. He’d blow through and bring her some special fruits from far away lands or news of pharaohs and insects. Sometimes he’d tell her of the awful elephant slaughters in Africa and she’d go there and send all the poachers into a land where they were the hunted. They’d return months later, some missing limbs, but all learning respect for others.

The past was a mystery to Victorya. She knew her father was God and her Mother Nature but nothing else, and this didn’t help her when it came to other people of the land. She was tolerated, but not accepted. Some days to be tolerated was enough. For the most part – what she really wanted was love. She had never even been held, not that she could remember. She argued with God constantly because he had stripped her from her memory. “It’s better you never know,” He said, His eyes turned down. “Trust me, I do it for your own good.”

There are days now where I am so afraid. Every step, every breath brings with it the idea of more wrongs that I committed in the past and those that I can commit in the present. Every gesture, every word brings with it the ability to harm another. I was not put on this Earth to do harm. The shadows surround me at times – I feel them leering at me, waiting for that moment to pounce and drag me back. I fight to keep a light shining, to keep them at bay.

“For the Lord God will be their Light,” “Jesus is the Light,” but God doesn’t walk with me anymore. We talk, we argue, and just downright fight. He is in me, and I’m sure some of the light comes from He, the Father, the true father that aided in my creation, but I have to do double duty to walk in the light that keeps the shadows at bay. It’s hard to walk through the valley of the shadow of death without the rod and staff, but a dream and a hope instead.

Some shadows I’ve befriended. We’ll go side by side like old loves. I’ve made peace with some of the darkness that lies within. Darkness is within everyone, and a part of their beauty.

Victorya had a light so bright that it was visible to all who saw her in her true form. She only showed it on rare occasions, for true pure light frightens people.

Victorya was around until maybe high school, and then she wasn’t needed as much, the fantasy changed. At that time the child inside was starting to recognize the world and voice her fears as the true me, the unification of the childhood and the dissociative fantasy, began to emerge.

The Victoria that my brother loved was a beautiful creature of porcelain skin and raven black hair. She was the main soloist at church and everyone believed that if anyone could make it as a singer, it would be her. He loved her with every core of his being, as did many other boys in the church. When he was finally old enough to date he bought her a flower. Every time he handed her his heart she gave it back in pieces. They dated off and on but it always ended the same way – she said she was too good for him. How could she not understand that she was his dream, his grail? His hope to rise above the muck of his life rose and fell on every note she sung on Sunday, as did the dreams of the rest of the congregation.

That Victoria wasn’t known for being pure though, not later. She fell, her wings cruelly cut and her halo broken before the faithful. Lascivious acts were the least offensive of the atrocities she did to her beautiful body and pure white soul.

But my Victorya remained pure and strong in heart. She became absorbed into my being, recognized for her faithful service in my time of need. That was a fantasy I no longer needed as I began to realize my accomplishments. Now what’s left is the truth of the child I was, and the woman I’ve become. This reconciliation is the toughest, for my childhood is my strongest shadow. That is the one I need to embrace, to allow to weep. I see it sometimes in my dreams and want to run and hold on and tell it to come into the light with me instead of dragging me to the shadows. I want the strength to hold on and not let go. But too often I run, too often I’m afraid as I am with every step I take, that it will be the wrong choice. But I know, somewhere inside I understand, that to console a crying child is never the wrong choice – especially when that child is you.

I chose the pen name Victorya Chase as homage to the fantasy that helped save my life. She showed me what I wanted to become, and that I had the capacity to be one day. I am still too frightened to use my real name in my internet writings. I don’t want to be found by figures of my past until I’ve found that child and held onto her tight, until I feel her hot tears stream down my strong shoulders and she finally feels the wonderful warmth that the light has to offer.
photo of oleander taken from http://www.almostedenplants.com

8 comments:

Amel's Realm said...

WOW!!! I'm speechless. You know you can write a whole book on your fantasies. You sure have a way with words, Vic!!!

Back to the topic, though. Yeah, it does take time to embrace the crying child within, but I'm SURE you'll be able to do it someday. :-))) Just take your time...someday I want to bear witness when you break out of your cocoon and tell me your real name. :-)))

I meant what I said about your blog. :-))) I can see Hope seeping out of your pores, wanting to break out into reality. And it WILL break out someday. ;-D Beautifully like the butterfly...

david mcmahon said...

Your writing leaves me speechless, Victorya ....

Victorya said...

Wow! Thanks for the compliments guys, it means a lot. This was the hardest post to write, omg. I had no direction, lol.

And thanks again Amel, I think I feel hope, I've always searched for it so knew it was out there. Hope will keep us alive.

heavenabove said...

You do have excellent writing abilities. Maybe one day you can publish all the writings, fantasy and non, from your blog into a book so that others having to live through similar situations can see that they are not alone and there are others that understand what they are going through. Being so honest will certainly only help you heal.

And a big thanks for your kind words to me lately.

phaseoutgirl said...

Vic, there is no need for real names. Names are who we call ourselves at any given time, for any given emotion. You are who you are, and your real "name" does not define you. You are strong, wonderful, and your writing takes us places where very often we are even scared to venture into

You are you, and I like what I see.. :) HUGS

Victorya said...

Thanks Phase.

Heaven: of course! my goodness, I've been there and while the end is sad, your posts let me remember all the good times I had with my furbaby. I hope all is going well with you.

~willow~ said...

hi, dropping by via BlogCatalog, specifically the "most interesting post" discussion thread.

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I usually read blogs with the tv on or something, this time I shut it off so I could really absorb your words.

I wish you all the best in helping the little girl into the light.

~willow~

joodiebee said...

Wow V1c, thank you for sharing that with us. The "Mom" part of me wants to just pull you up onto my lap and give you a hug and tell you it will be alright. I feel angry at the people who have caused you to feel you needed Victoria in the first place and wonder how this type of thing can be stopped. I know that you are a strong and wonderful woman I have been priveleged to know now for a couple of years. You are smart and talented and funny and I'm happy to know you. Please know that hugs are being sent to you telepathically, at least.
Judi